Relationship Readiness Questionnaire

Winners take all! But know that this entire questionnaire is a tool for self-reflection and growth. There are no right or wrong answers, as norms are known to change over time and geography. We think that lower scores simply indicate areas for potential personal development.

Relationship Readiness Questionnaire

    This Relationship Readiness questionnaire queries you on 5 salient topics: Mutuality & Reciprocity, Complementarity, Egalitarianism, Eroticism, and Self-Transcendence.

    Mutuality & Reciprocity

    Mutuality and reciprocity characterize situations in which two or more persons share inclinations, sentiments, interests, behaviors, and activities or do the same thing to or for each other.

    1. I am comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings with a partner.
    2. I value emotional intimacy in a relationship.
    3. I am willing to compromise for the good of the relationship.
    4. I believe that both partners should support each other's personal growth.
    5. I am open to learning and growing alongside a partner.

    The average of your score is:

    Congratulations. This score indicates a relatively high relationship readiness.

    This score indicates room for improvement regarding your relationship readiness.

    This score makes us believe that you can benefit from continuing growth regarding your relationship readiness.

    Beliefs about mutuality and reciprocity can profoundly shape relationship dynamics and satisfaction. Positive attitudes towards these concepts often lead to more balanced, supportive partnerships characterized by shared emotional investment and equitable give-and-take. Such beliefs can foster trust, enhance communication, and promote a sense of fairness and mutual respect. Partners who value mutuality and reciprocity may experience greater relationship stability and higher levels of intimacy. However, an overly rigid focus on tit-for-tat reciprocity can lead to scorekeeping behaviors, potentially undermining spontaneity and genuine care. Conversely, individuals who undervalue mutuality and reciprocity might find themselves in unbalanced relationships, either consistently over-giving or under-contributing. This imbalance can breed resentment, emotional exhaustion, or feelings of being taken for granted. In extreme cases, a complete disregard for these principles could result in exploitative or codependent dynamics. Cultural and individual differences in interpreting mutuality and reciprocity can also lead to misunderstandings or conflicts. Ultimately, a flexible understanding of mutuality and reciprocity, adapted to each unique relationship context, tends to contribute to more fulfilling and sustainable partnerships.

    Ready for the next topic which is about complementarity? Differences can be complementary rather than conflicting.